Employers Letter to the GIC

I’ve seen a couple of searches and requests for the same thing that I found hard to find, i.e. an example of an employers letter to a GIC “proving” that I work there under a female identity – one of …

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First day at work

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So this was it. The scariest day I’ve been able to imagine until now. Going into the office I’ve worked in for the last 9 years dressed as a woman for the first time. Knowing I face a 50 metre …

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Full time

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On the 27th July 2013 it was the first TransPride in Brighton. I’d travelled down the day before, deliberately in boy mode so that I could call the 27th genuinely the first full day of my being Lisa … permanently.  …

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Telling Work

As planned with HR, on Wednesday 24th, I had a meeting. Well actually three meetings in the end, in which I told my work colleagues face to face that I am transgendered and that I’m going to start coming to …

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Telling my daughter

Up until now my daughter has been unaware of the real reason my ex and I split. On Sunday just gone, I told her. I explained that most of the time boys grow up to be men and girls grow …

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Name change and seeing my parents

I had a month to get ready. I bought a whole load of cheap staple clothes … tops, skirts, trousers, bras, knickers. I ordered a new wig and I arranged a deed poll. My name is now, officially, legally, Lisa. …

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Full time ahead

A few days after my ex and daughter moved out, I had a GIC appointment where it became clear that if I want hormones from September, my cosy arrangement of going full time at the end of August wouldn’t be …

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They’ve gone

In the end it happened quite quickly. My wife chanced upon a vacant housing association flat in the next village and quickly committed to it. Within the month, on the 30th June in fact, they were moving out.  My wife …

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Getting ready for full time

I’ve asked HR at work for a meeting to talk about coming out at work full time and managing any potential discrimination. Its all aiming toward living full time, with my proper name, from the end of August. If I …

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You seem to have decided … I think you’re ready

“You seem to have decided … I think you’re ready” is what my GIC counsellor said to me half way through my last appointment. The counselling was to help me through the minefield of trying to cope with transitioning whilst …

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